From Conservative Evangelical Christian to polyamorous bisexual heathen, Skylar’s writing explores what it means to be alive and happy on her own terms. She writes about abuse, religious trauma, divorce, mental health, polyamory, parenting, and more.
What happens when you blow up your life and start over?
Five years ago, I was a married, stay-at-home mom to a baby and a toddler. I wanted to get back into regular writing, something I’d lost in the chaos of parenting. I found myself writing about deconstructing my faith. I was raised a Conservative Evangelical Christian, and though I considered myself progressive by that point, I was still deeply impacted by what the church put me through.
I wrote my way out of my faith. I found that none of it made any sense to me, and I didn’t believe any of it. I shared it all on social media. So many people related to my experience. I found so much community. So much empathy. So much love and support.
I kept writing. I wrote my way out of my abusive marriage and through divorce. I wrote my way through parenting. I wrote my way through polyamory, through new relationships and the joy they brought. I wrote my way through coming out as bisexual. I wrote my way through depression and anxiety, symptoms of religious trauma and trauma from abuse. I wrote my way through familial estrangement. I wrote and I wrote and I wrote. I grew so much and I learned so much and I changed every single part of my life. I kept finding empathy and love and support.
My life is completely different than it was five years ago. I’m in safe, loving relationships. I have a community of incredible friends and chosen family. My kids are in elementary school, and it’s a whole new world of parenting. I’ve worked through so much trauma and have found peace.
Writing helps me make sense of my life. It keeps me alive. It makes me happy and connects me to people outside of myself. So I’ll keep writing. I hope you find something to connect with here.
